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Author Interview ~ Maria Savva

March 3, 2011

Today is the last day of our Triple-Header with the three Resident Authors of the incredible BestsellerBound Forums.
Just scan the forum topics and you’ll want to dive in!!
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Yesterday and Tuesday were interviews with Darcia Helle and Stacy Juba
Today’s interview is with Maria Savva

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Maria, when did you begin writing and can you remember how it felt inside, back then?

I started writing my first novel, Coincidences, in 1997.  I used to write poems and short stories before then, but nothing serious.  When I started writing Coincidences I think it felt more like a challenge really.  I didn’t actually know whether I’d be able to write a whole novel, but it was something I’d always wanted to do.  Once I started writing it, though, the story really flowed and I’d finished it within 6 months.  Of course, there was a lot of editing to be done after that before I was happy with the finished draft.  Writing is a learning process.  I am continually learning and growing as a writer.  Funnily enough, I am currently re-editing Coincidences.  What I was happy with 10 years ago, I’m not so overjoyed with now.  I still love the story, but I’m revising the book because I want to get it onto kindle and other ebook formats, and as it will be a new edition I thought it would be fitting to completely revise it so that it reflects where I am as a writer now, rather than how I started.  In its current format it is a typical debut novel, good but could be better.  Sentence structure, background detail, things like that, are getting a bit of an overhaul.

Was there any certain date or time you remember when you began to either think of yourself as or call yourself a “writer”?

I remember a comment my brother made when he’d read Coincidences.  He said that when I asked him to read it he thought he’d be reading it and wouldn’t be able to take it seriously because it would “sound” like me but he said the narration actually “sounded” to him like an author.  That was a nice compliment and the first time I actually thought, “Oh, okay, maybe I can do this”.

What are your current hopes, dreams, or goals for your writing?

To have a bestseller, and be discovered by a Hollywood director who really wants to make a film out of my novel, and wants to cast me in the film too.  No, really that is it.  I aim high.   That has always been my dream, but I would settle for being taken seriously as a writer and selling enough books to make a living from my writing.

Well, that’s certainly something worth settling for :-)

Have you had any “formal” training in the art of writing?

Other than O’Level and A’Level English, no.  I read a lot about writing, and read a lot of books in general, which I think is a good way to learn.

What do you feel has taught you the most about “how to write”?

A couple of years ago I was helping another author edit his trilogy of books (Jerry Travis — author of the Safety Factor Books), and he helped me out with editing/proofreading mine.  I think we learnt a lot from each other at that time.  It’s amazing how much you can learn by doing something like that.  Just by noticing things that another author is doing wrong, or could do better, really helps you to see that in your own writing.  Sometimes it’s harder to see things that need to be changed in our own work.  Another funny thing was that he is American so has a different way of spelling a lot of words, and different ways of phrasing things, so we each learnt a lot about the difference between English and American-English.
I’ve also learnt a lot just by writing and re-writing my own work over the years.  It’s a continual learning curve.

I just learned a lot about you with your consistent use of “learnt” :-)

To let our readers in on a bit of your English history, I’m going to insert just a bit of your Bio from your site:

Maria Savva was born in London on 19th March 1970. She studied for a Law Degree at Middlesex University and went on to gain a professional solicitor qualification at The College of Law in London. She qualified as a solicitor in 1996. Maria continues to practice as a solicitor in London whilst writing her novels and stories in her spare time.

She was able to read before starting school, and on her first day at infants school, she remembers reading a story to another child in the class. Maria was immediately moved into the second year class, being too advanced for the first year.

Who are your favorite writers and why are they favorites?

These days, a lot of my favourite writers are also my friends. They become favourite writers when I read and fall in love with their books.  Darcia Helle, for example, the creator of BestsellerBound.com where I’m a resident author.  I met her online and got to know her on various networking sites.  Recently I have been reading her books and absolutely love her style.  Julie Elizabeth Powell, an author who writes in many different genres, I always enjoy her books.  Quentin R. Bufogle, author of Horse Latitudes.  That book is one of only a few that has made me laugh out loud when reading it.  He is a very funny writer who also writes short humourous pieces on his blog.  Jason C McIntyre, my co-author for Cutting the Fat.  After writing that novella with him and being exposed to his raw talent I am a great fan of his writing.  Joel Blaine Kirkpatrick, author of Breathing into Stone, that is an amazing book which should be a bestseller.  Stacy Juba, Paul Mansfield Keefe, there are so many talented indie writers out there who I am privileged to meet in my role as moderator on BestsellerBound and on other networking sites like Goodreads, it would take me all night to list all my favourites.  As for well known writers, I am a diehard fan of Paulo Coelho.  His book The Alchemist was probably the biggest influence on my writing when I first started as a novelist.  I always find profound words in any book he writes and thought provoking prose.  I intend to read all his books when I get the time.

You mentioned Joel Blaine Kirkpatrick and I’m happy to say that we’ll be having him over for an interview on Monday :-)

So, Maria, where and/or how do you get your ideas for your writing?

From life.  Maybe from hearing someone say something, or a news article, or a line in a song that makes me think of something.  Anything really, I always have ideas floating around in my head.

What is your normal revision or editing routine?

My normal routine used to be that I would write my first draft in longhand and then sit and type it up editing as I went.  Then I would print out and read the edited version checking for inconsistencies in the plot.  This would usually result in me adding more scenes and filling in background and basically adding more detail to the story.  Then I’d read it again, and again, and again, each time finding less and less to edit. Eventually I would come to the stage where I’m happy with it.  That’s when I give it to someone else to read and ask them to let me know if they find any mistakes.

For my new novel, which I’m currently editing, I have changed things.  For this one I wrote about half of it in longhand, but then decided to try to just write it straight onto the computer and I found that I could do that.  Another thing I changed is that I edited it as I went along, so each chapter I wrote I would go back over and edit, in the hope that there will be less editing to do when I read over it.  I am currently waiting for some free time when I can read it again.  I’m hopeful that there won’t be much editing needed this time.

Would you tell us a bit about your published work?

I have published three novels, Coincidences, A Time to Tell, and Second Chances, and three short story collections, Pieces of a Rainbow, Love and Loyalty (and Other Tales), and Fusion.  I’ve also published one novella, Cutting the Fat, with co-author Jason C McIntyre.

I’m hoping to publish my next novel by the end of the year.

Tell us about your blog: its purpose, how you go about deciding what to post, and what you want to do with it in the future?

I mainly blog on Goodreads.com.  I use the blog to let my followers know about any new releases I have, any interviews I have done, any giveaways or discounts, or just generally any news I have, or just something I need to say.
In the coming weeks I am going to be interviewing some of my favourite authors on my blog. I got the idea for this because I recently posted a blog about my favourite books and it was very popular.  I had a lot of positive feedback on that.  Most of my favourite authors are indie authors who most people have never even heard of, so by interviewing them and hopefully getting the word out to a few more people about them I will be helping out in some way.  It can feel very lonely being an indie author, and my attitude is that whenever we can help each other, we should do that.

I wholeheartedly agree, Maria !

Thank you for sharing this time with us and letting us into your writing world :-)
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Maria’s WebSite
Maria’s Blog on GoodReads
Her Amazon Author’s Page
And, her Lulu Storefront
And now, you can ask Maria a question or two :-)

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Author Interview ~ Darcia Helle

March 2, 2011

We have a wonderful triple-header going on–Yesterday, Today, and Tomorrow!
The three Resident Authors and Founders of the incredible BestsellerBound Forums.
Just scan the forum topics and you’ll want to dive in!!
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Today’s interview is with Darcia Helle

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Darcia, where are you from and how old are you?

I was born, raised, and spent most of my life in Southeastern Massachusetts. In 2002, I escaped the snow, ice and cold and moved to Florida. I’m 48, generally behave like I’m 28 and sometimes feel like I’m 88.

When did you begin writing and can you remember how it felt inside, back then?

I don’t remember ever not writing. When I was very young, I wrote children’s picture book stories. (And I am a horrible artist!) In my teen years, I progressed to the typical teen angst poetry. I do still remember how it felt to complete my first full length novel. The best description I can give is euphoric. Or, now that I think about it, shocked is probably the first emotion I felt.

:-)

Was there any certain date or time you remember when you began to either think of yourself as or call yourself a “writer”?

That’s been a very recent development for me. Even after I’d written and published a few books, I didn’t refer to myself as a writer. For some reason, it felt presumptuous to pin that label on myself. I had this preconception that, to be called a writer, a person had to be receiving a regular paycheck for his/her work and be recognized by the mainstream world. I was self-published and unknown, therefore who was I to claim to be a writer? Now I realize how silly and illogical that was. I’m still self-published and only slightly more known than I was a year ago–but I now regularly call myself a writer.

What are your hopes, or dreams, or goals for your writing?

I’d be lying if I didn’t say that one of my dreams was to see my titles regularly appear on the bestseller lists. That’s the ultimate form of recognition for any author. Beyond that, my hopes and dreams are that my books are able to touch those who read them. I’d love for my words to leave a lasting impression. Fiction has the ability to impact readers in profound ways. To accomplish that would be the ultimate high point for me.

As for my goals, I want to keep writing until the characters in my head stop speaking to me. And I hope that never happens.

I hope so too :-)

Have you had any “formal” training in the art of writing?

Aside from one college English composition class, no, I’ve had no formal training.

What do you feel has taught you the most about “how to write”?

That’s a tough question. Different things, to varying degrees, have helped me along the way. If I had to name the one thing that taught me the most, I’d have to say reading. As a writer, I read differently. I pay attention to pacing and style, take note of what I like and what I don’t. This isn’t something I set out to do with pen and paper and note-taking. Instead, it’s often a subconscious thing that occasionally jumps out at me.

After I’d written my first novel, I realized I had a lot to learn about the process. At that point, I read a lot of “how-to” books that I obtained through Writer’s Digest. I learned quite a bit that way. The other two big teachers for me are the process of writing in and of itself and talking to other writers, sharing thoughts and helpful tidbits.

Who are your favorite writers and why are they favorites?

Oh, so many and for so many reasons! I can’t name a few authors because I know I would inevitably leave out a few other equally important favorites. I have eclectic taste and read a wide variety of both fiction and nonfiction. I am inspired by authors with unique voices, who are able to bring characters to life and suck me into their world. I love fiction that entertains while tackling a social issue, whether that is poverty, greed, homelessness, etc. These types of books make me think long after I’ve turned the last page. But I also enjoy fiction that is light, with the sole ability to make me forget the evils of the world for awhile. For me, there is no one formula, genre, or writing style. My favorite authors are those with the ability to step out of the way of the story they’re telling.

Yes, step out of the way of the story they’re telling

Where and/or how do you get the ideas for your writing?

I wish I could tell you! In all honestly, I don’t know. Most often, a character will pop into my head out of nowhere. I have competing voices in my head almost all the time. Sometimes it will be a 15-second scene that plays in my head. Occasionally, a plot idea is the initial spark and a character fitting the scenario will emerge as I mull the idea over. I’ve always been fascinated by human nature and the drive behind certain behaviors, so this is likely the root of all my ideas. I’m always character-driven first. Plot is secondary in my approach.

What is your normal revision or editing routine?

I typically write the entire novel first in a rough draft. I don’t like to spend a lot of time dissecting my work at this stage. For me, that ruins the creative flow. I do my entire first draft on my laptop. When the rough draft is complete, I print it out. I have to do the initial revisions using printed pages. I need to hold them and feel the pages as I work. I read through, make corrections, expand on characterization, add scenes, remove scenes, etc. Then I take my jumbled mess of corrected pages and retype it all onto a Word file. This forces me to work slowly and, as I do this, I make further changes. These are typically the minor edits, such as word choices and sentence structure.

Once I’ve finished, I like to let it sit for at least a few days. I’ll work on cover design, write the blurb, and do assorted tasks unrelated to editing. This gives me a fresher perspective when I go back to the manuscript for the final micro edit.

Please tell us a bit about your blog and your published books.

My blog is a hodgepodge of book and writing related information. I try to make it both fun and informative. Each Thursday, I host a guest author. Typically, this includes an interview about a book I’ve read. Occasionally, the author will instead write a guest post on a topic related to his/her book. Mondays were my day for random posts from my own perspective, on anything from the history of book burning to background on one of my novels. I’ve recently begun a new Monday feature called Quirky Question Monday, in which I ask an indie author one quirky question. On Sundays, I toss out a sample of my writing. I also host giveaways and keep my readers posted on new developments.

As for my books, all six are some aspect of suspense. Enemies and Playmates (my first) is romantic suspense. The Cutting Edge (my last) is dark comedy/suspense and also the only book I’ve written in first person. My other four are a combination of mystery and suspense. Number seven, the book I’m working on now, is my first paranormal suspense.

I’d love it if you’d give us a little behind the scenes on a couple of your books. How about No Justice?

Some time ago, I served on a jury for the murder trial of a man accused of raping and murdering his
girlfriend. While I had known that our justice system had flaws, this was a close-up view of those
injustices behind our justice system. We, the jury, were not allowed to hear anything about the plaintiff’s
past. His life was a locked box. The victim, however, had no such privacy. The defense attorney gleefully
flaunted the victim’s past, including her sexual history from as far back as her teen years. I will never
forget the look of anguish on her parents’ faces.

The defense did a great job of spinning the tale and making the victim out to be less than virtuous. After a
week of this, when we were sent to deliberate, only two of the 12 jurors initially voted for murder one. I
was one of them. The other 10 wanted involuntary manslaughter, citing her behavior and his cocaine use
as “excuses”. I should mention here that the man had left his dead girlfriend in his bed, while he went out
and partied with friends all night. Also, according to witnesses, he was quite sober at the time of the
murder.

The other juror and I fought for, and eventually won, a murder one conviction. Before we left the
courthouse, the judge spoke to us privately. She congratulated and thanked us for the conviction. At that
time, she was able to tell us what had been carefully kept from us throughout the trial; the man we’d just
convicted had a long history of abusing women. He’d already been convicted of several assaults and one
rape. An involuntary manslaughter charge would have been little more than a slap on the wrist. He’d have
been out in no time, free to rape and murder yet another woman.

My husband and I were discussing this one day; that case specifically and the justice system in general.
That’s when the character Michael Sykora was born. In many ways, Sykora is my husband’s alter ego.
(But, to be clear, my husband does not moonlight as a hit man!)

As for the specific plot, that developed from a combination of the characters’ voices and the conversation
with my husband. I don’t write from an outline. I start with a character and a vague idea. Then I listen and
follow where that leads me. About midway through writing No Justice, I realized that I had way too many
plots and subplots going on. At that point, I knew that Michael Sykora needed to be a series. He wasn’t
happy with one book. I stripped down that initial manuscript and told the story of where I thought the
series needed to begin.

And, Beyond Salvation, the sequel to No Justice?

Homelessness is a huge problem in the U.S. Every age range, from children to the very old, exist in a
separate and hidden world on our streets.

In No Justice, two homeless teens made a brief appearance when they helped Nicki out of a difficult jam.

I wanted to bring them back and let them tell their story. That’s when Sara popped into my head and led the way.

Sara is a teenage runaway, friends with the two boys, and missing. The problem with runaways is,
when they disappear from the streets, no one but their few friends on those same streets notices. Often
there is nowhere to turn for help. Michael Sykora works within that lost world and sets out to find Sara.

To be honest, when I began writing this book, I had no idea what had happened to Sara. I don’t
outline and only began with that vague premise. As I explored the reasons behind Sara and her friends
winding up on the streets, I was led to the few options they might have to reach out for help. Sadly, there
will always be people who prey on those who are desperate. Cults are one of the biggest offenders, often
masking themselves as Churches and various sanctuaries of hope. Sara stumbled upon one of these.

As I was writing this book, I wasn’t looking to give a lesson in morality or write a societal thesis. I
simply wanted to give these lost people, the characters in my head, a voice. I hope that I achieved that and
managed to entertain at the same time.

Darcia, thank you, ever so much, for taking the time to tell us your background as an author and give us your insights about writing; and, those two Stories Behind The Stories :-)
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Darcia’s blog is A Word Please
You can buy her books on Smashwords and Amazon
Now, it’s time to ask Darcia a question :-)
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Author Interview ~ Stacy Juba

March 1, 2011

We have a wonderful triple-header for you today, tomorrow, and Thursday! The three Resident Authors and Founders of the incredible BestsellerBound Forums.
Just scan their topics and you’ll want to dive in!!
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Today’s interview is with Stacy Juba

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Stacy, when did you begin writing and can you remember how it felt inside, back then?

I wrote my first story, a paranormal thriller, The Curse of the White Witch, in third grade. I remember the excitement of asking my parents to bind it into a folder. I started a mystery series in fifth grade about an amateur sleuth named Cathy Summers. I remember sitting in my bedroom, filling up lined notebook paper. Every sentence had to be perfect. If I made a mistake on the page and it looked messy when erased, I recopied the page.

Such devotion at such a young age

Was there any certain date or time you remember when you began to either think of yourself as or call yourself a “writer”?

My teachers and classmates started labeling me as a writer in fifth grade, and by high school, there were even rumors going around school that I had published a book. I actually hadn’t–my first book was accepted for publication shortly after graduating from high school. Back then, I resented the label as it made me seem different from the other kids. It’s ironic, as now, I work hard at branding myself as an author. That’s a big part of who I am. It’s interesting how we get more comfortable with ourselves as we get older.

Well, some of us do :-)

What are your hopes, or dreams, or goals for your writing?

My main hopes are to entertain people, and to make a steady income each year from my books.

Have you had any “formal” training in the art of writing?

A little bit, but not at first. I majored in exercise science in college as I didn’t know what kind of job I could get with a creative writing degree. I took one creative writing class in college and enrolled in an adult education class in creative writing. I participated in an intensive online mystery writers class through UCLA Extension and have taken about a half-dozen online classes offered through various professional organizations that I belong to, classes in the criminal mind, romantic suspense, pacing, character development, and synopsis-writing. I’ve also taken workshops at conferences over the years and have read multiple books about the craft of writing. Working as a reporter for a daily newspaper also honed my writing skills.

I would think it certainly would!

What do you feel has taught you the most about “how to write”?

I think just being in the business for so long and having received so many rejection letters. Many editors saw potential in my work and gave me ideas on how to rewrite to make various books stronger. I also had an agent for a couple of years who gave me similar feedback. For me, it wasn’t about learning how to write. It was about learning how to edit and fill in the gaps.

I hope a reader or two asks you more about your last two ideas in the comments :-)

Who are your favorite writers and why are they favorites?

My favorite author growing up was S.E. Hinton, the author of The Outsiders. I was inspired by her as she published her first book when she was a teenager and her books had a unique voice. As an adult, I admire J.K. Rowling because of the depth of her imagination and how she was able to carry on this huge series under a lot of pressure.

Where and/or how do you get your ideas for your writing?

I got the idea for Twenty-Five Years Ago Today because of my newspaper background. When I first started out in journalism, I was an obit writer/editorial assistant and one of my tasks was compiling the 25 years ago today column from the microfilm. I got the idea, what if an editorial assistant stumbled across an unsolved murder on the microfilm? For Sink or Swim, I didn’t really understand why reality shows were so popular. I wanted to explore why a regular person might go on a reality show and then weave a mystery story around what might happen after this normal person is thrust into the limelight. Ideas just pop into my head–some ideas keep persisting until I start writing, while other ideas just sit on the backburner as they don’t feel ready yet. I learned from my former agent to follow up on the ideas that have the most marketing potential.

Aha

So, what is your normal revision or editing routine?

I outline each book and refer to the outline as I write each chapter. I tend to write a handful of chapters, then go back and edit. Once I finish the manuscript, I use different colored highlighters to highlight description, dialogue, internal thought, action, etc. That way I can focus on tightening up or embellishing one aspect of the story at a time.

Please tell us about your published work.

My first book, the young adult novel, Face-Off, was published by Avon when I was 18 under Stacy Drumtra. It is long out of print as it was published in 1992, but I will be bringing it back in the next year or two and will also publish its never-before seen sequel Offsides. More recently, my mystery novel, Twenty-Five Years Ago Today, was published by Mainly Murder Press in late 2009 and Sink or Swim was published by Mainly Murder Press in January 2011. My children’s picture book, The Flag Keeper, was independently published last fall. My paranormal young adult thriller, Dark Before Dawn, is scheduled for release by Mainly Murder Press in January 2012.

Very impressive line-up of books, Stacy!

Tell us about your blog: its purpose, how you go about deciding what to post, and what you want to do with it in the future?

My blog ties in to my books. As a tie-in to Twenty-Five Years Ago Today, I invite guest authors to answer the question: What were you (or your character) doing 25 Years Ago? I also started a new feature called the Sink or Swim 6, where authors fill out a six-question “contestant application” interview from the perspective of one of their characters. The authors are encouraged to solicit comments from their friends and readers. At the end of the year, the three posts that drew in the highest number of unique commenters will be declared the winners of the fictional reality show, Sink or Swim. The features have been so popular that I’ve had to close submissions until mid-May. My blog can be found at http://stacyjuba.com/blog/blog/.

Wonderfully inventive idea, Stacy!!

Please tell us about the availability of your titles.

The mysteries are available in paperback and multiple $2.99 e-book formats. The picture book is available in paperback and will be released in multiple e-book formats in the near future.

And, synopses?

Sink or Swim: After starring on a hit game show set aboard a Tall Ship, personal trainer Cassidy Novak discovers that she has attracted a stalker. Soon, she will need to call SOS for real…

Twenty-Five Years Ago Today: For twenty-five years, Diana Ferguson’s killer has gotten away with murder. When rookie obit writer and newsroom editorial assistant Kris Langley investigates the cold case of the artistic young cocktail waitress who was obsessed with Greek and Roman mythology, she must fight to stay off the obituary page herself.

The Flag Keeper: This illustrated picture book teaches children about U.S. flag etiquette through a fiction story, flag facts, activity idea, and discussion questions.

Excerpts, books trailers and reviews of my books can be found at http://stacyjuba.com/blog/.

And, where can we get the books?

Buy links to different retailers are available in my store: http://stacyjuba.com/blog/store/

Stacy, thanks, so much, for taking the time to stop by and share all this information about your writing career!

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Rediscovering The Power of The Word, “No!”, with Irina Avtsin

February 28, 2011
I want to give a respectful welcome to Irina and thank her for choosing this blog as a stop on her BlogTour. On to our interview…

Irina, I think a good first question is where are you from and what are some of the highlights of what brought you to write your book, Rediscovering The Power of No?

I was born and raised in Moscow, Russia and, being an admittedly brave teenager (or just a teenager :-) immigrated to Israel on my own, arriving there on the second day of the first Gulf War. I got my gas mask and an Israeli passport at the airport. That was my welcome to the country.
I worked my way through getting a BSc in Computer science from Technion, the Israeli analog of MIT. I came to the US in 1999 and soon started working on Wall Street – first at Merrill Lynch and then at Citigroup. I graduated from Columbia Business School in 2007. I worked at Credit Suisse Private banking before starting my own Personal Confidantency, which I then  expanded into “Let’s do a reality check!” and “MBA Confidante”.

I think my experience in all of that is what brought me to write the book.

Would you share a few personal interests and abilities with us?

I like Yoga, Pilates and I hope to learn to play golf some day.
I appreciate good food, nice wine and well written books.
And, I’m fluent in Russian, Hebrew, and English and speak some French.

Thanks for that personal touch :-)

So, your book says that saying “Yes” can be harmful. Would you explain that?

“Yesomania” is a term I use to describe the chronic and widespread desire to please other people and always say “Yes”, often times compromising one’s own health, money or relationships.
My book helps you take the first step towards having more control over your life. Beginning to take a closer look at how saying yes to everything affects you and what the price you pay for it is. This will help you see where you need to change then take the steps towards making your life easier and less anxiety prone.

O.K., let’s get just a bit of your advice from the book right here. How about in career matters?

It’s hard to say ‘No’ to your boss. However few people realize that if you are the one who always says “Yes” you will be given all those tasks that others said “No” to – and for a good reason. Your raises and promotions will likely get postponed, since there is no reason to make sure that you are happy with your job. You will say “yes” anyway.

What about personal relationships?

When you always say “Yes” to others’ requests and suggestions you are not allowing other people to really get to know you. All they know is that you are someone with no preferences, who always says “Yes”. While it might feel that you are always surrounded by people who could help, you could find yourself alone in a moment of need.  You could also suddenly realize you won’t be able to accommodate everybody. It often happens to those affected by Yesomania that accommodation might be the only thing people came to them for. Once “Yes” is not on the menu they will disappear and you will see the friends who stay with you and can help in times of need.

Money?

Your finances are bound to suffer if you can’t say “No” to a small loan, going out to a restaurant that’s too expensive, or buying something you don’t need because you can’t refuse a salesperson. Do a quick calculation – how much did it cost you over the last month?

How about health and stress?

If you can not say ‘No’ to your boss’ request to stay for a few hours longer and skip the gym as a result, you might start piling up those pounds that are so hard to lose later on. When you are on a diet and say “Yes” to a friend’s dessert, your waist line is likely to suffer.
Also, When you are spread too thin you’re stressed. Period. You do not have the time to evaluate your priorities and that in itself leads to additional stress.

Irina, thanks, so much, for that peek into the kind of help you offer in your book!

I should add that, even if a particular reader of your blog doesn’t have the problems that come with Yesomania, the book would make a great gift (for under $5) for any push-overs in their life!

Absolutely, Irina!! Thanks, again, for stopping off on your BlogTour and I’m sure your book could help many of our readers :-)
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Alexander M Zoltai I started writing seriously rather late in life but I'm forging ahead with roaring flames in my heart... I've written the novel, "Notes from An Alien", with Sena Quaren--taking her other-worldly experience and translating it for an Earth audience. No, I'm not Channeling. I'm merely taking the "reality" of one of my characters to a new level :-)

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